Coming out of the closet mania

Is Aaron Rodgers gay? Read this story on Yahoo and Huffington Post that Aaron Rodgers addressed rumors that he was gay. He said he’s not gay.

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Before I proceed, I would just like to mention that I am totally na├»ve to this subject matter. I am not gay and so I have no clue what it’s like to be gay so I say all of this with an open mind…

WHY DOES IT MATTER?

I don’t get why this is a story? I guess I understand that there aren’t really many openly gay athletes but why are rumor sites and sites like Yahoo and Huffington Post reporting on it?

Why is it everyday I see some story about whether or not someone is “in the closet”?

Is this really what we care about? Do we really care if someone is gay or is it just middle school played out over the internet and airwaves?

It just seems like madness! Why are we so interested in who is and who isn’t in the closet?

Once upon a time, a friend of mine came out as gay to me over a phone conversation. We rarely talked so when he called out of the blue late one night I answered. It took me a minute but them I recognized the voice. He sounded strange but I wasn’t sure if he was sick, nervous or drunk. Anyway, we talked for a few minutes and then he said, “Nathan, I want to tell you something.”

Now, this could have been anything. This friend had really gone through some hard times so I wouldn’t be surprised at anything he said. He took a second to tell me he really looked up to me and valued my opinion and then he said “I’m gay.”

It took me a second to register what he just told me, not because I suspected him being gay or because that’s a thing that bothers me, it took me a second to realize that he thought he needed to tell me. He went on to ask me lots of questions about my thoughts on him being gay and what that meant for his relationship with God. I’m not going to go into all that right now but I do want to tell you how I felt afterwards.

I felt drained. I felt terrible that my friend was so worried of what my reaction might have been. I felt sad that he had lived his life with the thought that I would reject him. To me, it really made no difference that he was gay. Is that being aloof or shortsighted? Is that being progressive? I’m not sure but to this day, I can truly say it made no difference to me if he was gay.

What mattered to me is that my friend was hurting and some of that was caused by what I might think and what God might think of him.

I’m tired of reading who might be gay or who came out of some damn closet. What matters to me is the lives that being hurt over our need to know something that isn’t our business at all.

My friend didn’t need to talk to me, he didn’t owe it me. Why do we feel so entitled that we seek out to know if our favorite athlete or celebrity is gay?

I’m sorry Aaron Rodgers felt the need to respond. I’m sorry there are thousands of people whose private lives have become public because some asshole seeks to “out” people that don’t need to be “outed”. Why can’t we just let people be? celebrity